Choosing your maid of honor should be one of the easiest decisions of your wedding. If you are told to think of the girl closest to you, who would be there for you in an instant, who has been with you through thick and thin, who would do anything for you, and vice versa, there is typically someone who always springs to mind. But, perhaps due to conflicting schedules, money issues, lack of real girlfriends, or just plain unwillingness on the part of your best girlfriend, you may be stuck having to ask yourself, “Who should be my maid of honor?†If you find yourself in this uncomfortable situation, and are wondering how to choose, here are some great ideas to help get you started.
Keep it in the Family
If you are lucky enough to have a sister, consider asking her. Choosing my maid of honor was simple, as I am a twin, and my sister and I are pretty close. If you have a sister you are close to then it should be a simple choice. Now, if they are too young, like 7 or 8 years old, you may be out of luck, but consider making them a junior bridesmaid or flower girl instead. But be sure to look at other possibilities such as a cousin or even a sister-in-law.
Your Best Friend from School
Another possibility is to turn to the best friend you had in either high school or college. You’ve both got memories of each other that go way back, perhaps of the first time you met your future husband, or just giggling about dreams of getting married. Your best friend from either high school or college is usually a great choice, and the ones that most brides turn to when planning their big day.
Untraditional Choices
You may find yourself with the position of having no sister, and no best girlfriends, but a great guy friend who has been there for you through it all. In this case, it may be advisable to have him stand in that place as your man of honor or some other title you wish to bestow. Some brides also choose their mother, if they are very close. If you have a good friend from work or church that you don’t know from school, but who is very supportive of you and will be there for you, then you may want to consider asking her as well.
When your maid of honor accepts the position, she is taking on a host of responsibilities. The duties of the maid of honor are extensive, and you need to make sure that the lady accepting the title is aware of these duties and ready to take them on. But choosing your maid of honor should be a relatively easy decision. If you need more advise, then please comment back and let me know.
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December 5th, 2007 at 10:52 am
I was planning to have my sister in law be my maid of honor, but after 15 years with my brother, they broke up. Now my brother has a new girl friend and I don’t know if I should find a diffrent maid of honor. I don’t have any sisters and my best friend is a guy. Please help.
December 7th, 2007 at 12:00 pm
Judy - great question! I guess the main question is if you and your ex sister in law are still friends even though she is not with your brother anymore. If you’re still friends, then consider asking her. One thing you should do though is talk to your brother and see if he would mind if you asked her to be in your wedding. If everything is water under the bridge then he may not mind, esp since he has another girlfriend. Bottom line, I think you can still ask her, just make sure it won’t hurt any feelings or cause any fights with her being there.
June 8th, 2008 at 10:47 am
I think you should ask your ex sister in law but i would talk to my brother and his new girlfriend frist and let them know that you and her are still friends and let them now that it is no hard feeling toward the new girlfriend
June 9th, 2008 at 10:00 am
Thanks for your comments… I asked my ex sister in law and she said Yes. I also asked my brother and he was ok with the idea. I’m not friends with the new girlfriend, so I really don’t care if she approves. Thanks again!