Planning a wedding for your daughter is a momentous occasion. There are so many details and plans to take care of, that sometimes it can be hard to know where to start. As her mom, I’m sure that you want to take over some of the responsibility so that she doesn’t have to carry all of it herself. You can be as involved as you want to be, but keep in mind that this is a very special time in your daughter’s life, and there are times during the wedding planning process when she will want your involvement, advice, and closeness. While there aren’t really any mother of the bride duties that are set in stone, there are many details and ways that you can help to take some of the strain off of your daughter. Here are some suggestions of ways that you can help.
Scouting Out Locations and Vendors
One way that you can help your daughter plan her wedding is to ask around to friends and co-workers about different reception venues and recommendations of certain vendors. Plus, in some of your free time you can help the bride and groom scout out different locations they might like.
Guest List Worries
One of the most common mother of the bride duties is to help the bride and groom compile a guest list. This could include working with the groom’s family about who they want on the guest list, and helping to manage the difficult task of limiting the guest list.
Planning a Bridal Shower
Typically, there is a bridal shower that is thrown for the family sometime before the wedding. While this can be designated to another family member, such as an aunt or grandmother, the mother of the bride is expected to help plan and of course, attend the bridal shower for her daughter.
Being a Go-To Person
Your daughter will have a lot of things on her plate when it comes to planning the wedding. One great way that you can help her out is to be one of the go-to people for vendors and guests needing advice and instructions. Have family coming in from the airport who need directions? Give them your phone number so they won’t call your daughter and add unnecessary stress. Also, being a go-to for the vendors will save your daughter the stress of knowing that the caterer will be arriving late, but still should have everything set up in time. This is an important detail the mother of the bride can easily handle for her daughter.
Being a Mom
Even though your daughter is getting married and maybe starting a family of her own soon, she will always be your daughter. Remember to be there for her as a shoulder to cry on, someone to confide in, and someone that she can rely on to help her in this important time of her life. What a special time in her life you’ll miss if you choose not to be a part of it.
Again, there are not set mother of the bride duties. Just be sure to remember to be there for your daughter during this stressful and exciting time, and always look for ways that you can help lessen the burden. She will always remember and be grateful, and it can be a very special bonding time between mother and daughter.
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April 27th, 2008 at 7:21 pm
It is probably important to point out, you should discuss your involvement in the wedding planning with the bride and groom. You should ask what they would like you to do to help. There are no set duties but the Bride AND Groom come first in decision making.