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Ideas on Asking Friends to Be in Your Wedding

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Ideas on Asking Friends to be in Your WeddingIt is a great honor to be asked to be someone’s bridesmaid, or their maid of honor. When you ask someone to be your bridesmaid or maid of honor, you are singling them out as someone extremely close to you, and showing them just how important they are to you. In addition to this, your friends should be excited about the possibility of being able to be such an integral part of your special day, and many can remember the day that their best friend asks them to be a part of their bridal party. So why not ask them in a way that will make them laugh, cry, or really remember the fun and unique way that you asked them to be a part of your wedding. Personally, nearly all of my bridesmaids lived far away from me. Three of my bridesmaids were my husbands sisters, one was my sister, and then a dear friend that I had in church. I simply called each of them on the phone to ask, and got all kinds of responses from disbelief to cheers and shouting. But, if you are looking for more unique ways to ask your friends to be a part of your wedding, then here are some great ideas to get you started.

Ask Your Friends to be in Your Wedding All at Once

One great way to ask your friends to be a part of your wedding is to do it all at once, so that everybody can be be surprised and get excited together. You can just come out and ask them all at one time, or find a more fun way to do it. Make homemade cards and pass them around, or maybe simply a small piece of paper rolled up like a scroll that they have to open. Pass one out to everyone and have them open it, reading a small statement about how much each of them mean to you, and if they will do you the honor of taking part in your special day. If you are going to use this method, it may be best to ask your maid of honor first so that there aren’t any hard feelings between the other girls you want to have as bridesmaids.

Ask Your Friends to be in Your Wedding with a Gift

Another great idea for asking friends to be in your wedding is to present them with some kind of gift. Maybe give them a flower with the message tied onto the stem. Your friends will love the flower, and it will remind them of what they will be carrying in your wedding. Another great gift idea is to buy them all Bridesmaid’s Shirts off of the Internet. The shirts are relatively inexpensive, and the girls should get the idea once they open the package.

However you choose to ask your bridesmaids to have a part in your wedding, don’t feel bad if one of your friends turns you down. I had a dear friend from high school turn me down due to a prior engagement, and while it was a little sad, I understood that she had a life going on in another town, and knew that she still wanted to be there. So, don’t be brokenhearted if you get a no answer, just tell her you love her and wish she could, regroup and find another bridesmaid to take her spot. If you have a favorite way that you were asked to be a bridesmaid, or way you are planning on asking your friends to be in your wedding, then please write in and let me know.

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How Many Bridesmaids Should I Have?

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How Many Bridesmaids Should I Have?When I was choosing the bridesmaids for my bridal party, I didn’t have very much of a problem at all, not like some people have anyway. My husband has 3 sisters, I have one and I also had a very good friend from church that I wanted to be a part of the wedding as well. Luckily enough, my husband had a group of 5 men who were cousins and brothers that he wanted to be in the wedding and so our numbers matched perfectly. Not everyone is that lucky though when they are looking at their friends and family to be a part of their bridal party. One big problem that many brides face today is that they have a dozen or more good friends and/or sisters who would like to be a part of your bridal party. This could be a big problem, seeing as you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. So what do you do anyway? You may be asking yourself some of the following questions: How many bridesmaids is too many? How many bridesmaids should I have? Only you can answer that question, but here are some tips to help you decide.

Consider the Ceremony Location

A great way to determine how many bridesmaids you should have is to look at your ceremony location. Sit back and look at it carefully, and be honest with yourself about how many bridesmaids and groomsmen will even fit. For example, our church is very small, and I knew that anything over 5 bridesmaids would look cramped and someone would have to be standing next to the piano player to make it work. Not the best idea. Now, if you are getting married in a large church, or outside, then space really isn’t an issue and you can look at having more bridesmaids in your bridal party.

Consider the Groomsmen

Before you go and ask a dozen of your closest friends to be bridesmaids, talk to your fiance and make sure that he has enough men he wants to be groomsmen to match the number of bridesmaids that you have. While the numbers do not have to match exactly for it to work, it will definitely look odd if you have a dozen bridesmaids and your groom only has 5 groomsmen. For my sister’s wedding, she had one less groomsmen for the bridesmaids, and one of the groomsmen escorted two of the bridesmaids on the way out. It worked out fine, but it wasn’t the way she had planned it, one of the groomsmen just didn’t show up to the wedding.

Consider your Friends

Not all of your dozen friends need to be bridesmaids. Consider your friends carefully and choose the friends who will be there for you on your wedding day, who will help to make your day easier versus the friends who are a little more high maintenance. There are plenty of things your friends can do who are not bridesmaids, such as helping plan the wedding, planning bridal showers, taking care of the guest book, cutting the cake, and much more.

I know how hard it is to choose between your friends when it comes to choosing your bridesmaids, and how many that you will have. Just be honest with yourself and the character of your different friends. You may hurt some feelings, but if they are true friends then they will still stand by you in your wedding, and be happy for you. If you need any further help with this topic, or have any additional advice, please comment and let me know!

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Should my Maid of Honor Look Different?

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Should My Maid of Honor Look Different?Your maid of honor is typically a sister or best friend from ages past. She is there to help you throughout your wedding planning process, throwing bridal showers, bachelorette parties, writing a maid of honor speech, along with a host of other responsibilities she will be put through during the time before, during, and even after the wedding takes place. Check out the full detail of the duties of the maid of honor. It is only fitting, that with all you will be putting your maid of honor through, that she should stand out a bit from the rest of your wedding party. There are several ways to accomplish this, and you can use any one of them to help set your maid of honor out from the pack.

 Change Up the Dress

If you’ve read my article about All Different Bridesmaid Dresses, then you already know that while many brides today are choosing to let their bridesmaids choose their own style of dress, many brides are still opting to have all of their bridesmaids look the same. If you are choosing to have your bridesmaids all the same, then add something to the maid of honor’s dress to help set her apart from the others. For example, if your colors are pink and brown, and you want to have brown bridesmaid dresses (a beautiful choice by the way), then add a pink sash to the maid of honor’s dress. Giving her a completely different style of dress when all the other bridesmaids have the same dress will be distracting, your guests will wonder why she is the only different one there.

Add to the Bouquet

When I was a maid of honor for my best friend in college, she gave me a larger bouquet than the other bridesmaids. It’s a great way to set apart your maid of honor. Either give her a slightly larger bouquet, or add some different types of flowers than what the rest of the girls have in theirs. Be careful with this one though, to make sure that all of the bouquets will still match in the end.

Other Ideas

One thing my sister did for her maid of honor was to let her wear flowers in her hair. It wasn’t something done for the rest of the bridesmaids, and it really helped set her apart. You could also give her something different to hold her bouquet with. For example, if you have ribbons tying off the bouquets for your bridesmaids, then design one especially for her that is perhaps a little longer, or done with a different type of ribbon.

 Whatever you do, treat your maid of honor well. She is taking extra time away from her own busy life to be with you and help you out, typically much more time than your other bridesmaids will be. Be sure to give her the honor due, not only as a thank you for all the hard work that she has helped you with in planning your wedding, but also to make sure that you will be as close of friends as you were before the wedding once all your wedding stuff is complete.

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All Different Bridesmaid Dresses?

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All Different Bridesmaid Dresses?Today, more and more brides are starting to let their bridesmaids have more of a say in the style of bridesmaid dress that they wear. It’s a great idea, and your bridesmaids will totally appreciate it if you choose to go that way too. The fact is, the chances that one style of dress will suit the body type of each of your bridesmaids is slim. With my wedding, all of my bridesmaids were basically the same size, and I knew that a simple A-line dress would compliment each one of them, so they all had the same style. There has always been a great debate among brides during their wedding planning if they should have all of their brides looking uniform and the same, or if they should allow the bridesmaid to choose their own dress. Here are some great reasons why you should allow your bridesmaids to choose their own style of dresses.

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I Need Ideas for Bridesmaid Gifts!

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Give your Bridesmaids a Great GiftWhen wedding budgets are running slim, usually the first things to be cut out are wedding favors and bridal party gifts. But don’t forget these important people in your ceremony! Some of them have spent considerable time and money traveling to your wedding, paying for your bridesmaid dress, and countless other expenses just to support you! Don’t neglect those people close to you, show them that you appreciate all they are doing to help make your special day unforgettable. Here are some great ideas for gifts to show your appreciation that is easy on the pocketbook as well.

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